Tuesday, October 16, 2012

Marriage or Mirage?

This topic has been on my mind lately...

 Typically it seems as though people have mapped out their lives from a young age. We are asked "what do you want to be when you grow up?" as children and we have romantic movies and ideology shoved down our throats from the time we are able to actively listen until death. But these ideas seriously need to be looked at and reconsidered. Disney has taught us that all girls are princess dying to be rescued from some evil captor or other...this is bullshit. It is because of things like this that girls from a young age are brainwashed into a "Fairytale wedding" and that they should be on a quest to find their "soulmate". There are about 7 BILLION people on this earth, so statistically speaking, there is always a better match for you somewhere out there then the one you are with, it just so happens that they are in a place where you haven't expanded to.

 I can't tell you how many times in my short 24years I've heard girls (guys as well) say "I want (x) amount of kids, and get married by the time I'm (x) years old This is bullshit. Its amazing to me how people can just map out their life like that and not even realize that by doing that they are simply putting themselves in a box and enter into a marriage or life with someone that they can just paste into that cookie-cutter life. I truly believe that it is this kind of attitude that has ruined love and romance. People get married and think, "this is it, this is what I've wanted". Do they even realize that entering into a marriage is a contractual obligation? How many times have you willingly signed a life contract? Odds are, you haven't (unless you're married, of course), and either way, it's stupid. Don't get me wrong, I'm for marriage (gay, straight, and otherwise), but I think that the idea of what it is has ruined love. It has turned a feeling into a contract. And whether people will admit it or not, if you love someone, a ring on your finger and a piece of paper doesn't have the slightest significance in the grand-scheme of things.

Let me put this into modern terms...
Kim Kardashian, famous for fucking black guys. We all know her and what goes on in her life, so she will be my example.
Kim K married a pro basketball player Kris Humphries.  All the events leading up to their wedding were chronicled on E! in a tv show.  The entire show was centered around their life together and led up to "Kim's fairytale wedding".  They spent more money on this wedding than we are in a deficit with the economy, and how long did it last? 45 DAYS. What a JOKE!  But the entire time all you had to look at was what Kim wanted for the wedding, and really, any guy could have fit into her "dream mold".  As a girl she is crazy (we all are) and she had been planning this wedding in her head since she was a young girl.  It just happened so quickly because she realized she was getting old and was "supposed" to be married by that age with a baby on the way.  She put herself in a box and limited what her life could be with someone else, for some spur-of-the-moment romance.

I'm getting annoyed just blogging about that, I digress.

Marriage is a sham.  It's a way to get a tax break and control someone else's shit when they die.  If you're in love, please, consider the real cost of entering into a marriage and if it's really right for you and your partner.  Everyone deserves to be happy, just make sure that it's YOU that is doing the defining of what Happy is to You, not by way of disney movie or society.

I'll probably write more on this topic later, but for now that is all.

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